In the first part of this post, I discussed God’s view of homosexuality as a sin and the importance that Christians understand this. In this post, I would like to discuss the implications of that as it pertains to the way Christians should show godly love to homosexuals.
For some reason, many Christians today think that the only way to show love and support to the gay community is to somehow accept homosexuality as something that is perfectly normal, acceptable, and absent of any moral implication. The truth is that this is actually one of the most unloving possible responses one could have.
Imagine you had a daughter or friend who gets involved in a heterosexual relationship with a guy who is bad news. He has a criminal history, and you have noticed that he is very influential on your daughter/friend. She begins staying out extremely late, coming home drunk, and eventually gets caught committing some petty crime like shoplifting. Eventually this guys starts dealing drugs, and you find out that he has started involving your daughter/friend in his drug deals. It looks like this relationship is leading her on a path to punishment in prison or death on the street. What would your response be? How would you approach your reaction to this destructive, dysfunctional relationship with your daughter/friend? If we loved her like many Christians are “loving” homosexuals, then we would be loving her straight to prison or death. However, in reality, most people would advise her against this relationship and try to help her see the tragedy that lies in its path. We would do this, not because we hate her and don’t think she should be happy and live how she wants, but because we love her and do not want to see her life ruined.
How much more so should homosexuals be warned of the eternal consequences of the path that life takes! Homosexuality is a damning sin that leads to hell just like any other sin, and if we help homosexuals live in their deception that it is not a sin, then we are loving them straight to hell. Their damned souls are on our hands. How can they repent of something they do not view as a sin, and how can they view it as a sin, if we do not warn them? The way most Christians treat homosexuality now encourages homosexuals to stand self-righteously before God as the Pharisee in the parable of Luke 18 thanking God that he is not a swindler, unjust or adulterer, when he should be like the tax collector crying out, “God, be merciful to me, the sinner!”
This does not mean that we should pass our own judgment on homosexuals, nor does it mean we should be hateful of them. God does not desire that we persecute or oppress any sinner. What it does mean is that we should be lovingly honest in warning them about the eternal consequences of their sin according to God’s Word and tell them of the hope they have in Christ if they will repent of their sin and put their faith in Him. “The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9, NASB). We have wonderful news to tell them! Jesus Christ offers forgiveness of all kinds of sin including homosexuality if one will repent and accept Jesus as Lord and Savior. That is what it means to show godly love. Let us not be guilty of having a part in the eternal damnation of homosexuals by trying to define love by the world’s standards. Instead, let us demonstrate God’s love by warning the world of its sin and pointing them to the only answer, Jesus Christ.